Judging Others......

I have a story. It's a long story. I don't know how to write it with it actually making sense!! I am having an issue with a girl in my American Lit class. I feel like I am back in high school. I feel that sometimes people should just keep their mouths shut when they don't know what they are talking about. I love when other people judge me for things I have done in my life. They have totally walked in my shoes and know what happen so they have absolute every right to judge me. And call me a whore. They totally have every right. Of course they do, because they know me. Yep, that's it. They have never made mistakes. They have never done things they shouldn't have. Nope. They are perfect therefore they get to judge.

What, you ask??? Is that sarcasm in my voice??? ABSOLUTELY!! I am pissed. and yes I who tries my best to never cuss on my blog. (that by the way will be another blog post really soon, bet your wondering why I would post on that subject, huh? Just wait...that's another day!) I am royally pissed.

I am having issues with a girl in my lit class because she is just so ugly to other people. It feels like high school again because she is picking on people who are so shy that they don't really defend themselves. I had enough and defended a girl that sits next to me last week, over something so silly I might add. The girl was literally picking on this other girl endlessly because she left a tag on her jacket she just bought that day. Stupid huh? Yeah, I agree. I defended.

Same class, same girl, different day. Group is waiting for class to start, conversations flowing. Teen pregnancy is topic. Hits close to home seeing as I got pregnant at 16. I did not involve myself in this conversation at all until the same girl states that anyone that gets pregnant between the ages of 15-19ish are whores. Yes she said whores. Because she knows all those people and know that they slept around with everyone in sight. Yep she knows them ALL. Oh and she also said they should give those kids up for adoption or abort them so they don't grow up and find out their mother's are whores. Let's just say this did not go over so well for me. I asked her if she had sex? She did not answer but I am not exaggerating when I say you could tell the answer is yes. I said then your are a fine one to be judging others. I said you could just as easily get pregnant (oh and she is 18 by the way, so she is most definitely in her age range of whore status by her own statement).
I then proceeded to tell her that I got pregnant at 16 and I had my baby and she is now a perfectly, healthy 8 year old girl who lacks for NOTHING!! I said that I worked my butt off for her and that she has never went without anything and when she gets older she will know exactly who her mom was and what the situation was and she will also know that her mom did something she was to young to do but that she doesn't regret having her ONE DAMN BIT! and that her mom is not and was not a whore just because she got pregnant so young. I then proceeded to tell her that maybe she should keep her mouth shut when she didn't have a clue what she was talking about.


So, on with the conversation...few more things said and then time for class. I was shaking I was so upset. I have had this happen before and every time I get so mad. Yes, I was young. Yes, I was being stupid. Yes, I am HUMAN. Why do people out their believe that just because you are young that you shouldn't have the kid. I completely believe in adoption and that it's an awesome thing for woman to have that option but to be told that it should have been my only option other than an abortion because I was young and would be a horrible mom just upsets me. I am a darn good mom. I believe other young girls out there will go through the situation and still be great moms. I believe the best thing for girls out their in these situations is to know that they aren't a bad person. They are loved and will be supported in the decisions they make. Sadly, that isn't always what happens, actually most of the time it's not. I thank God today that I had such an awesome family to support me. They help me along in the process and my daughter had so much love. I had so much love.

I also can honestly say that without having my daughter when I did, I am not so sure I would have been as determined about finishing school and going on to college. I learned alot about my strength because of her. I don't wish it on others, I don't think it's the best situation for a young person to be it. You always want better for your kids but I abosolutley do not regret what happen. I will always be honest with my kids about it too.

My brother has gone through several different situations like this too. He married young and had his daughter young and because they were young and looked young, he has gotten the judgmental stares and conversations.

So, sorry long post just had to get it off my chest. This is definitely something I have to keep praying about. I need to learn to control my temper when dealing with people like this. And I have to remind myself that I too can be judgmental at times about other things because aren't we all judgemental at one point or another. I will just keeping prayer that I will have a calm, non judgemental spirit!